Fighting fear only suppresses it, accepting fear is what kills it slowly.
We have been taught our whole lives to fight through our fears, all it does is it keeps it locked up, still it feeds, still it grows, until one day when our defenses our down it breaks free hitting us twice as hard as before.
Fear is not a force on it’s own, it is just the absence of trust, just like darkness is the absence of light. When we trust, fear cannot exist, it is impossible. Just like if there is light, we can see. We know what is there, the darkness does not consume us.
But what happens when we fight with fear, it is like using a torchlight, we can see temporarily, but when the battery dies, we are back in the darkness as lost as we were before. Fighting fear wastes our energy, because we cannot fight forever, sure we might get a lucky break here and there that boosts our confidence but eventually when we keep challenging fear, we will come across a dead end.
So what does it mean to accept?
Accepting fear does not mean creating your own light, accepting fear means stepping into the darkness 100% willingly. Knowing whatever lies there waiting cannot harm us. Whatever it is we fear in life, whether it has physical or mental consequences, we must understand yes, fear is real, but no it does NOT control us, it is not who we are. It cannot hurt our spirit. It is just a thing. that is all.
When people become so engrossed in fear it consumes their whole lives. They spend every single waking moment dying because of it, never truly living. Whatever it is they fear of won’t hurt them as much as the fear it self.
You must find the beauty of the darkness, accept the beauty of the darkness. Darkness is natural for our progress, whatever we take from the darkness is up to us. Welcome it, it is one of the ways we truly live, to know any second your whole world can be taken away from you and still be happy.
When you understand this, and when you practice this. You will know that once we accept the darkness, we will create our own light, that is unlimited and infinite, it will never run out on us no matter how dark it gets. That is called trust. But in order to have trust we must be courageous and accept our fears.
We ALL have fears, it is normal. Let the fear come and let go. Don’t hold on to it, don’t fight it. And it will show itself out.
Whether we fear of death, of life, of school, of family, of failure or of rejection. It does not matter. The consequence itself is nothing, we have enough strength to pull ourselves out of it. We have enough strength to shine our lights in every single moment. Fear does not exist, it is there. But there is no meaning for it in lives, it serves no purpose. Once we understand that we can move on, we can trust. We can shine.
It is so important to trust in life, it is so import an not to hold on to our fears. Say it to your,
“Ok there is fear, so what? So what?”
Its just fear, it like an annoying person around you, he is here, you don’t like him. But so what, he cannot hurt you unless you let him.
Eventually when we accept, that person or ‘fear’ will just fade, and slowly by slowly it will mean nothing to you.
I am not scared of death, i accept it. I die, i will be in mystery, if i don’t i still have so much of this wonderful life to uncover. I will have lived un aware that i will die, i will have truly lived. If i spent all my waking life fearing death, I am already dead.
When we accept things they are no longer in front of us, when we don’t they will constantly block our way.
Fear eats away at us when we cannot accept, it is the opposite of our existence, being free and to live in mystery. That is the joy of life, not knowing where it will take you and getting to a beautiful place. We cannot get to that beautiful place if we fear. We will never reach our infinite potential if we hesitate jumping into mystery.
Do not concern yourself with the negative thoughts about the future, because the future never comes, we live in the present. You can be happy RIGHT NOW and only now because now is forever and always.
I was so scared of coming back to the serve the army, fearing it every single day, it was eating away at my heart and soul, i created a living hell for myself. Even before i was in it. I was already living in that hell i created with out knowing that hell would never come.
It is foolish to think we know what will happen, it is foolish to think we can plan our heaven. If we don’t jump into our hell with courage, we will never get out. That beautiful place, we are already living in. The future does not exist, it is just the absence of living in the beautiful present. So know one thing. That despite of all the facts, we are still in control.
There is nothing to fear, but if you have fear no that it has absolutely no control over us, it is just there. Like the floor or hate or a ball. It is just there.
Learn to trust life, learn to have courage. Everything is beautiful, fear is meaningless so don’t try to give it a meaning.
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